If all partners that are engaged in domestic violence, showed signs at the beginning of being abusive, no one would choose to proceed in an abusive and troubled relationship. Unfortunately, most of the signs of an abusive relationship can be very subtle at the beginning and can easily be missed.
According to the National Institute of Health. Domestic violence can include sexual, emotional and physical abuse and even threats.
Early signs that can indicate domestic violence or an abusive partner can include minor forms of jealousy, distrust, self-centered or very controlling behavior that increase as time passes.
How Abusers Treat At The Beginning.
Keep an eye for how a partner treats you at the beginning of a relationship, a potential abuser will have a specific way of treatment, such as making decisions for you, ordering your meal in a restaurant or planning social gatherings without consulting you.
A potential abuser can also tend to rush the relationship, like asking you to start living together before you both have already known one another properly.
He may also make stress on you to do things you don’t feel comfortable to do using words like “if you really care for me you would” or “everyone does that” to convince you.
Jealousy can be another hint that you are getting involved in an abusive relationship, especially if the jealousy seem to be an overreaction to regular situations, like becoming angry or irritated when you talk with limits to other men or get compliments.
– His Relationship With Others.
Watching how your partner behaves or treats others can give you an understanding of how you will be treated by him later in the relationship. If he seems to blame others quickly for small mistakes or even for his own mistakes or becomes very angry for regular stressors, all these signs can indicate domestic violence later on, for example, you may experience a rage over small things like a meal not prepared as desired in a restaurant or even taking out work stress on you in an exaggerated way when it is not your fault in the first place.
Also men that tend to treat animals or children badly are likely to turn out to be abusive as the relationship proceeds.
– How He Sees Himself.
People that always want to break people down in order to build themselves up are known as hierarchical self-esteem are very likely to become abusive and to take his partner for granted.
An abuser may always seem to be resentful of others and have a sense that he deserves better than what he is getting. He may feel that the world is so unfair to him and that he deserves better than what he is getting.